The Stupid News with Yankee Pete
HERE ARE TEN WAYS TO PAY YOUR DATE AN ORIGINAL COMPLIMENT
Tuesday November 3rd, 2009
How many times has this happened? You're out on a date with someone you like, and you want to pay them a compliment. But you don't want to use the same tired line every other jerk uses.
Well, the people over at Match.com feel your pain, and they've come up with a list of ten ways to compliment your date, without coming across as an unoriginal tool. Check it out:
#1.) Focus on what they haven't heard before: If your date has nice hair, she probably knows it. So either come up with a new way to compliment her hair, or bypass the "obvious" qualities in favor of something less appreciated . . . like her posture.
#2.) Look for cues: The question isn't "What do YOU notice about your date?" It's "What do you think your date WANTS YOU to notice?" In other words, identify what seems to be important to your date, and focus on complimenting those things.
#3.) Get specific: Vague, general compliments mean absolutely nothing. So instead of telling a girl she's "pretty," identify a specific, more subtle trait . . . like, say, her sultry voice. The rule of thumb is the more specific the compliment, the more likely it is to strike a chord.
#4.) "That color looks great on you": Apparently, women love this one. I'm not quite sure why. But it seems to signify your attraction, as well as demonstrate your eye for good style.
#5.) Compliment their home: If it's clear your date has spent a lot of time and energy setting up her place, then chances are she wants you to notice and appreciate her efforts.
#6.) Acknowledge their friends: If you get the chance to meet your date's friends, you have to show them some love . . . even if they're annoying. Why? Because would you date someone if all your friends hated them?
#7.) "You must spend hours at the gym": The only way this compliment can misfire is if your date clearly DOESN'T go to the gym. Otherwise, you can't miss. Why?
Because if they DO go to the gym, they'll appreciate that you noticed their efforts. And if they DON'T, you're still complimenting their superior genes. There's nothing wrong with that.
#8.) Beware the lewd and suggestive: At the end of the date, or sometime soon, you're hoping for relations. That goes without saying. But there's no better way to make sure that never happens than to use lewd or suggestive euphemisms. It's just creepy.
#9.) Never say "I like you": Why? Because some people will feel you're coming on too strong. Plus, there are much smoother ways to convey the same message.
#10.) End on a good note: If you get a kiss, compliment it immediately. And even if you don't, you should end with a broad compliment. Something like, "You're amazing." Basically, you want to end the date on a high, and indicate that you want more. (Match.com)
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